Gerry's lack of emotion - my view

Aplogies for starting a thread about this but I needed some opinions on something that always occurs to me.

Excerpt from Gerry's blog: (found on a thread here)
Day 650: Where does the time go? I cannot believe it is 3 months since I wrote this blog- not that this seems like the most appropriate term for such a sporadic update. We remain incredibly busy and focussed on the search whilst trying to maintain a near normal life. For Kate and me life without Madeleine does not get easier but Sean and Amelie continue to give us a tremendous amount of joy. Amazingly Madeleine remains a large part of their life and they talk about her daily. We just have to find her!

We have a small team of people working tremendously hard behind the scenes- please do not think that because there is regular coverage in the media that the search has stopped.

I visited Lisbon last month and met with the UK Ambassador and our Portuguese lawyer. We need to explore every way we can work with the authorities to enhance the search for Madeleine.
Thanks to everyone who has sent letters, donations, prayers and words of support. It is all greatly appreciated.


Sorry to be picky, but coming from someone with a 'writing' background, I have to make a point here; Gerry's way of writing is very unemotive. It is factual and bare - it holds no 'feeling' within it. He writes "we just need to find her!" instead of "we just need to find her...." or "we just need to find her."
The use of an exclamation mark is odd when you consider he is talking about a missing child and not the missing child's shoe. For instance "we need to take Maddie to the park, she has lost her shoes so she can't go, we've been looking for ages, we just need to find them!"
And: "I cannot believe it is 3 months since I wrote this blog- not that this seems like the most appropriate term for such a sporadic update." - no mention of the agony of the last three months, christmas without his beautiful girl, the pain at having to read through documents about his daughter's disappearance. 'Sporadic update'?? How about - "It's hard, sometimes to sit and know what to write as words just fail me..." ??? See? NO EMOTION!


I don't know if anyone knows what I mean or not, but whenever I have read gerry's blogs I am always left with this sense that they are just words. I have been involved with 'words' for alot of years, (phrasing things, ie songs, poetry etc) and the way you express yourself when you write shows how you really feel. I have seen more passion in posts on this forum then in his blogs. I have recieved pm's from Binky, (I know she won;t mind my saying this), about her beloved nephew Ryan and you can feel the emotion in the way she expresses herself.

I SEE NONE OF THIS FROM GERRY.

Has anyone else noticed this?

yes, and here in the PT forums we used to say that another person is writing the blog for him because the way of writing is not from a father of a missing kid

eddie wrote:Aplogies for starting a thread about this but I needed some opinions on something that always occurs to me.

Excerpt from Gerry's blog: (found on a thread here)
Day 650: Where does the time go? I cannot believe it is 3 months since I wrote this blog- not that this seems like the most appropriate term for such a sporadic update. We remain incredibly busy and focussed on the search whilst trying to maintain a near normal life. For Kate and me life without Madeleine does not get easier but Sean and Amelie continue to give us a tremendous amount of joy. Amazingly Madeleine remains a large part of their life and they talk about her daily. We just have to find her!

We have a small team of people working tremendously hard behind the scenes- please do not think that because there is regular coverage in the media that the search has stopped.

I visited Lisbon last month and met with the UK Ambassador and our Portuguese lawyer. We need to explore every way we can work with the authorities to enhance the search for Madeleine.
Thanks to everyone who has sent letters, donations, prayers and words of support. It is all greatly appreciated.


Sorry to be picky, but coming from someone with a 'writing' background, I have to make a point here; Gerry's way of writing is very unemotive. It is factual and bare - it holds no 'feeling' within it. He writes "we just need to find her!" instead of "we just need to find her...." or "we just need to find her."
The use of an exclamation mark is odd when you consider he is talking about a missing child and not the missing child's shoe. For instance "we need to take Maddie to the park, she has lost her shoes so she can't go, we've been looking for ages, we just need to find them!"
And: "I cannot believe it is 3 months since I wrote this blog- not that this seems like the most appropriate term for such a sporadic update." - no mention of the agony of the last three months, christmas without his beautiful girl, the pain at having to read through documents about his daughter's disappearance. 'Sporadic update'?? How about - "It's hard, sometimes to sit and know what to write as words just fail me..." ??? See? NO EMOTION!


I don't know if anyone knows what I mean or not, but whenever I have read gerry's blogs I am always left with this sense that they are just words. I have been involved with 'words' for alot of years, (phrasing things, ie songs, poetry etc) and the way you express yourself when you write shows how you really feel. I have seen more passion in posts on this forum then in his blogs. I have recieved pm's from Binky, (I know she won;t mind my saying this), about her beloved nephew Ryan and you can feel the emotion in the way she expresses herself.

I SEE NONE OF THIS FROM GERRY.

Has anyone else noticed this?

Quite right edds.....he's always done this from the very start....Even on the "about Maddie" part he added for her...it only included her age and her name....there was lots about her family but no facts about Maddie......he added those later after obviously viewing forums where ppl were saying that was odd....

Also as you say he adds nothing about Christmas......but he doesnt forget to mention the money....

His way of writing is just so odd Amber - his child is missing - has been missing for more than 18 months - and he writes about it like he is writing about 'A day in the Life of a 9 to 5 Dentist who's looking for ways to to make fillings more fulfilling'!! Completely matter-of-fact and emotionless!

eddie wrote:His way of writing is just so odd Amber - his child is missing - has been missing for more than 18 months - and he writes about it like he is writing about 'A day in the Life of a 9 to 5 Dentist who's looking for ways to to make fillings more fulfilling'!! Completely matter-of-fact and emotionless!

Eddie you should read this article. It highlights what you've said here.

https://missingmadeleine.forumotion.net/main-maddie-thread-latest-news-f1/dr-gerry-mccann-how-time-runs-thank-your-for-the-answers-comply-with-the-calendar-t2616.htm

Dogwood wrote:

eddie wrote:His way of writing is just so odd Amber - his child is missing - has been missing for more than 18 months - and he writes about it like he is writing about 'A day in the Life of a 9 to 5 Dentist who's looking for ways to to make fillings more fulfilling'!! Completely matter-of-fact and emotionless!

Eddie you should read this article. It highlights what you've said here.

https://missingmadeleine.forumotion.net/main-maddie-thread-latest-news-f1/dr-gerry-mccann-how-time-runs-thank-your-for-the-answers-comply-with-the-calendar-t2616.htm

Thanks Dogwood x
I went and read - it was brilliant.

eddie wrote:His way of writing is just so odd Amber - his child is missing - has been missing for more than 18 months - and he writes about it like he is writing about 'A day in the Life of a 9 to 5 Dentist who's looking for ways to to make fillings more fulfilling'!

Which reminds me that I visited my dentist today.

I saw him last back in 2007, when there was a lot in the local papers about the Stuart Lubbock case, Michael Barrymore's arrest on suspicion of murder, and my book on the case, which came out about a month after Barrymore was arrested. He was very interested in it and chatted to me about it while drilling a hole and filling it in.

So I thought I'd take a Madeleine booklet along with me today. I put it in a brown envelope and handed it to him as I left. He said 'thank you' politely. Less than half a minute later, as I was booking in my next check-up (no fillings this time), he came rushing out to the front desk, and said effusively: "Thank you very much for this, Mr Bennett, I've always thought there was something very suspicious about the parents, I'll look forward to reading this very much", and shook my hand vigorously.

I still had to pay the standard £16.20 for my check-up, though.

NOW. BACK TO THE TOPIC

Yes, eddie, absolutely right, he is almost robotic in many interviews, staring ahead into space, Kate of course is also cold, hard, emotionless, both lack human warmth. No doubt about it, he writes his own blog, it is the emotionless but focussed-on-maintaining-the-abduction man himself who writes the blog. Over-confident to the point of arrogance, repressed anger about something bubbling close to the surface, slippery, obfuscating, self-obsessed - these are the characteristics that he displays most of the time. Plus the ability to act, or as Dr Kate once put it in her fake diary, to 'put on another great performance'

FINALLY...

This item was on the BBC News today:

The American woman charged with the murder of British student Meredith Kercher showed no emotion over the death, an Italian court has heard.

Robyn Butterworth, a British friend of Miss Kercher, said she found Amanda Knox's behaviour "very strange".

She said she did not cry and was "joking, kissing and cuddling" with her co-accused ex-lover Raffaele Sollecito.

A third suspect - 21-year-old Rudy Hermann Guede, born in Ivory Coast - was jailed last October for 30 years.

Guede opted for a fast-track trial, separate from the other defendants.

Later Miss Knox spoke for the first time in court, saying she was innocent of the killing in November 2007.

Miss Kercher, 21, from Coulsdon, near London, was found stabbed to death at a flat she shared with Miss Knox.

Both Miss Knox, 21, and Italian Mr Sollecito, 24, deny the murder charges.

In her first statement to the court, Miss Knox stood up and spoke in Italian: "I am innocent and I have faith in the system."

['Fooling around']

Miss Butterworth was one of several British students to give evidence at the court in Perugia, central Italy, on Friday.

She said a group of friends, who Miss Kercher had met while studying in Perugia, had gathered at the police station just hours after her body had been found.

"I found Amanda's behaviour very strange and I found it quite difficult to be around her," she said.

"We were all crying. I didn't see her crying."

Meredith Kercher was in Perugia as part of an exchange programme

Speaking through a translator, she said Miss Knox and Mr Sollecito were "fooling around" as they waited to see police.

"I remember Amanda sticking her tongue out at Raffaele," she added. "They were talking and joking, kissing and cuddling."

The BBC's Duncan Kennedy in Rome said this was the first time "close witnesses" to the case had given evidence.

He also said Miss Kercher's British friends portrayed Miss Knox as a cold person who often acted strangely.

He added it was the prosecution's case the pair were "cold-blooded murderers" who killed Miss Kercher in a sex game, but Miss Knox and Mr Sollecito claim they were at his house working on the computer.

Miss Knox and Miss Kercher were studying in the Umbrian hilltop town of Perugia at the time of the murder on 2 November 2007.

Miss Kercher's semi-naked body was found in her bedroom in the shared cottage. Her throat had been cut.

Miss Knox and Mr Sollecito have been held for 15 months awaiting the trial, which is expected to last at least until summer.

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I am still of the opinion that, for whatever reason, the "disappearance" of Madeleine has been a relief to the parents. They find it hard to hide the relief and make a very bad job of doing the tragic bit.

Tony Bennett wrote:

eddie wrote:His way of writing is just so odd Amber - his child is missing - has been missing for more than 18 months - and he writes about it like he is writing about 'A day in the Life of a 9 to 5 Dentist who's looking for ways to to make fillings more fulfilling'!

Which reminds me that I visited my dentist today.

I saw him last back in 2007, when there was a lot in the local papers about the Stuart Lubbock case, Michael Barrymore's arrest on suspicion of murder, and my book on the case, which came out about a month after Barrymore was arrested. He was very interested in it and chatted to me about it while drilling a hole and filling it in.

So I thought I'd take a Madeleine booklet along with me today. I put it in a brown envelope and handed it to him as I left. He said 'thank you' politely. Less than half a minute later, as I was booking in my next check-up (no fillings this time), he came rushing out to the front desk, and said effusively: "Thank you very much for this, Mr Bennett, I've always thought there was something very suspicious about the parents, I'll look forward to reading this very much", and shook my hand vigorously.

I still had to pay the standard £16.20 for my check-up, though.

NOW. BACK TO THE TOPIC

Yes, eddie, absolutely right, he is almost robotic in many interviews, staring ahead into space, Kate of course is also cold, hard, emotionless, both lack human warmth. No doubt about it, he writes his own blog, it is the emotionless but focussed-on-maintaining-the-abduction man himself who writes the blog. Over-confident to the point of arrogance, repressed anger about something bubbling close to the surface, slippery, obfuscating, self-obsessed - these are the characteristics that he displays most of the time. Plus the ability to act, or as Dr Kate once put it in her fake diary, to 'put on another great performance'

FINALLY...

This item was on the BBC News today:

The American woman charged with the murder of British student Meredith Kercher showed no emotion over the death, an Italian court has heard.

Robyn Butterworth, a British friend of Miss Kercher, said she found Amanda Knox's behaviour "very strange".

She said she did not cry and was "joking, kissing and cuddling" with her co-accused ex-lover Raffaele Sollecito.

A third suspect - 21-year-old Rudy Hermann Guede, born in Ivory Coast - was jailed last October for 30 years.

Guede opted for a fast-track trial, separate from the other defendants.

Later Miss Knox spoke for the first time in court, saying she was innocent of the killing in November 2007.

Miss Kercher, 21, from Coulsdon, near London, was found stabbed to death at a flat she shared with Miss Knox.

Both Miss Knox, 21, and Italian Mr Sollecito, 24, deny the murder charges.

In her first statement to the court, Miss Knox stood up and spoke in Italian: "I am innocent and I have faith in the system."

['Fooling around']

Miss Butterworth was one of several British students to give evidence at the court in Perugia, central Italy, on Friday.

She said a group of friends, who Miss Kercher had met while studying in Perugia, had gathered at the police station just hours after her body had been found.

"I found Amanda's behaviour very strange and I found it quite difficult to be around her," she said.

"We were all crying. I didn't see her crying."

Meredith Kercher was in Perugia as part of an exchange programme

Speaking through a translator, she said Miss Knox and Mr Sollecito were "fooling around" as they waited to see police.

"I remember Amanda sticking her tongue out at Raffaele," she added. "They were talking and joking, kissing and cuddling."

The BBC's Duncan Kennedy in Rome said this was the first time "close witnesses" to the case had given evidence.

He also said Miss Kercher's British friends portrayed Miss Knox as a cold person who often acted strangely.

He added it was the prosecution's case the pair were "cold-blooded murderers" who killed Miss Kercher in a sex game, but Miss Knox and Mr Sollecito claim they were at his house working on the computer.

Miss Knox and Miss Kercher were studying in the Umbrian hilltop town of Perugia at the time of the murder on 2 November 2007.

Miss Kercher's semi-naked body was found in her bedroom in the shared cottage. Her throat had been cut.

Miss Knox and Mr Sollecito have been held for 15 months awaiting the trial, which is expected to last at least until summer.

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Do you think Amanda Knox is guilty Tony?

When I first heard on the radio that a child had gone missing, while on holiday, my heart went out to the
parents. Then, after seeing them on TV being interviewed a shiver went down my spine. They were sooo very very cold and arrogant. They have done nothing since to change my mind.

Krisy22 wrote:When I first heard on the radio that a child had gone missing, while on holiday, my heart went out to the
parents. Then, after seeing them on TV being interviewed a shiver went down my spine. They were sooo very very cold and arrogant. They have done nothing since to change my mind.

Hi Krisy: i needed 3 months to see that mainly because here we had the idea that north european people are colder then us. After more then one year at Uk forums i know we were wrong thinking that way.

i still remember that even thinking of them as inocent i was watching the news about Maddie in tears and asked my husband how was possible to speak of the own daughter as they do without any emotion.
How was possible for them to sleep well during the night (they sais this) and i was having sleeping problems because of the case

How can they live a normal life thinking that her 3 old daughter is with pedos - was the question i asked 1000000 times!!!!!!

pm wrote:

Krisy22 wrote:When I first heard on the radio that a child had gone missing, while on holiday, my heart went out to the
parents. Then, after seeing them on TV being interviewed a shiver went down my spine. They were sooo very very cold and arrogant. They have done nothing since to change my mind.

Hi Krisy: i needed 3 months to see that mainly because here we had the idea that north european people are colder then us. After more then one year at Uk forums i know we were wrong thinking that way.

i still remember that even thinking of them as inocent i was watching the news about Maddie in tears and asked my husband how was possible to speak of the own daughter as they do without any emotion.
How was possible for them to sleep well during the night (they sais this) and i was having sleeping problems because of the case

How can they live a normal life thinking that her 3 old daughter is with pedos - was the question i asked 1000000 times!!!!!!

Very well said Paula - I never thought of it from the point of you have stated - (the Northern European coldness).
And your last sentence - well i would rather think my daughter was dead that suffering with peados!!! (if you understand what I mean x)

eddie wrote:

pm wrote:

Krisy22 wrote:When I first heard on the radio that a child had gone missing, while on holiday, my heart went out to the
parents. Then, after seeing them on TV being interviewed a shiver went down my spine. They were sooo very very cold and arrogant. They have done nothing since to change my mind.

Hi Krisy: i needed 3 months to see that mainly because here we had the idea that north european people are colder then us. After more then one year at Uk forums i know we were wrong thinking that way.

i still remember that even thinking of them as inocent i was watching the news about Maddie in tears and asked my husband how was possible to speak of the own daughter as they do without any emotion.
How was possible for them to sleep well during the night (they sais this) and i was having sleeping problems because of the case

How can they live a normal life thinking that her 3 old daughter is with pedos - was the question i asked 1000000 times!!!!!!

Very well said Paula - I never thought of it from the point of you have stated - (the Northern European coldness).
And your last sentence - well i would rather think my daughter was dead that suffering with peados!!! (if you understand what I mean x)

I've said that from day one....I would rather my child be killed in seconds than suffer at the hands of a pedophile for years......