New developments in the Ben Needham case

princess_leia wrote:

Panda wrote:princess_ leia

That' s fine, we are all entitled to different opinions , I would be delighted if Kerry gets closure , one way or the other, but IMO she surely must accept that after 21 years the chances of finding Ben are pretty remote. Jon Benet is a typical case and the little girl who disappeared from the Supermarket in Germany, I can't remember her name.

Why should she accept it? She is his mother and any normal loving mother would never accept their child will never be found. Unless there was evidence to suggest he was dead, but there is no evidence to say that. Most people are under the impression he was sold or taken by gypsies. Even if she knew he was dead she is still entitled to look for him, and to know what happened. Look at Keith Bennet's mother, she knew he was buried somewhere on the moors but she was determined to find his body. Sadly she died recently, but this is proof that parents never, ever give up on their children.

Parents who lose a child and bury their child get closure.........Kerry deserves closure as do April Jone's parents. They say the worse part is the not knowing, and I agree it must be truly horrendous to not know what happened.

Jonbenet was murdered in her home, with very little evidence of an intruder, I've always believed it was her mother. I don't really see the relevance here?


Let's just agree to differ on this .

Iris wrote:My late father died at age 95. His twin went MIA during the war - he was a POW in a camp in Italy. He just vanished, off the face of the earth, in 1942. I have his service number and everything, but we have never, ever found out, to this day, what became of him.

My dad went to his grave, adamant that his twin brother was still alive. If he was dead, my dad would just "know". He believed up until the day he died that his twin must have married some Italian girl and made a life in Italy, and that's why he never came home.

Now the odds of this are probably not that great. But it is what my Dad believed, and he wasn't hurting anybody by having that belief, so we just left him to get on with it. I have carried on the search and I am still searching for what became of my Uncle, even though he was probably dead long before I was even born. We even went back to Italy, to where the camp was, to see if anybody remembered anything.

I don't think that you can ever "get over it" or "move on" without proper closure. My daughter has vowed that even when I am no longer here, she will continue to try and find out what became of her Great Uncle.

princess_leia wrote:

Iris wrote:My late father died at age 95. His twin went MIA during the war - he was a POW in a camp in Italy. He just vanished, off the face of the earth, in 1942. I have his service number and everything, but we have never, ever found out, to this day, what became of him.

My dad went to his grave, adamant that his twin brother was still alive. If he was dead, my dad would just "know". He believed up until the day he died that his twin must have married some Italian girl and made a life in Italy, and that's why he never came home.

Now the odds of this are probably not that great. But it is what my Dad believed, and he wasn't hurting anybody by having that belief, so we just left him to get on with it. I have carried on the search and I am still searching for what became of my Uncle, even though he was probably dead long before I was even born. We even went back to Italy, to where the camp was, to see if anybody remembered anything.

I don't think that you can ever "get over it" or "move on" without proper closure. My daughter has vowed that even when I am no longer here, she will continue to try and find out what became of her Great Uncle.

How sad for your father :( But this is proof that people CANNOT move on, and if you choose to do that then surely that is your business, and if people wish to help you in your search then this their choice. To say forget about it and move on is crazy! I don't blame Kerry for doing what she does, I think most people would do the same.